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cleejh2002) wrote2023-04-04 10:12 am
cleejh2002) wrote2023-04-04 10:12 am
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We have started to look at assisted living places for my dad. The plan now is for our mom to move in with us, and dad to move into assisted living. There are more resources here in Eugene, and there will come a time soon when mom won't be able to care for him anymore. Financially it is better for just dad to move in to the facility, although the ones we are looking at allow mom to hang out as much as she wants, and even eat and do the activities with him. Basically she can do everything but sleep there. It's also what she wants.
I'm not sure dad is too gung ho about it all but there will come a time when we also have to consider what is best for him and mom. Honestly, I think it will be great for him. He will have more social interactions, 24 hour care by a nurse, and the places we've looked at are seriously like a cruise ship only not on the ocean! Lynn and I want to move in!
So far we have toured two places and have three more scheduled. The plan is for us to narrow it down to the ones we like best, and then have mom and dad tour and pick the one they like. He can go on a waiting list until he is ready, but if he waits too long he may not get his first choice. We'd like them to move right away, and we can work on selling their house. But my mom states she is capable now of taking care of him, and if he falls, "He can stay in a nursing home up to 150 days," so then he could move into the place we pick. Lynn and I don't like that scenario but we also have to let them keep as much agency as possible. We will see how it all end up.
I'm not sure dad is too gung ho about it all but there will come a time when we also have to consider what is best for him and mom. Honestly, I think it will be great for him. He will have more social interactions, 24 hour care by a nurse, and the places we've looked at are seriously like a cruise ship only not on the ocean! Lynn and I want to move in!
So far we have toured two places and have three more scheduled. The plan is for us to narrow it down to the ones we like best, and then have mom and dad tour and pick the one they like. He can go on a waiting list until he is ready, but if he waits too long he may not get his first choice. We'd like them to move right away, and we can work on selling their house. But my mom states she is capable now of taking care of him, and if he falls, "He can stay in a nursing home up to 150 days," so then he could move into the place we pick. Lynn and I don't like that scenario but we also have to let them keep as much agency as possible. We will see how it all end up.
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